Who do you hate?
If you’re a lesbian. You hate bisexuals. Why? Because they’re all skank ass whores. Obviously. Because its not like lesbians are commitment-a-phobes. It’s not like lesbians cheat on their significant others. It’s not like lesbians ever do anything wrong ever because lesbians are all inherently cat loving knitters of good put on this Earth to do nothing more but have pot lucks and live in co-operative living spaces. You’re queer? Let’s date. You’re bi? Why on earth would you choose to date men and women, you selfish slut?
Hold up. What. Has a bisexual ever done to you? Or rather what has a bisexual person done to you, that a gay person hasn’t? If you have the capacity to cheat, it doesn’t matter what sex you prefer. You’re just a douchebag.
There is some serious bisexual shaming and hating going down. And as someone who has to often deal with lesbians hating on my gender expression I sympathize. I have puzzled over, for quite a long time why lesbians/queer identified people hate bisexuals so so so very much. I think the ultimate reasoning is: Because a bi person likes both penis and vagina they will never be able to pick one or the other and ultimately always be shitty partners. They are individuals who can’t make up their minds and will fuck you over.
But like…hear me out here…If you’re queer and are attracted to both trans men and femme lesbians doesn’t that kind of sort of make you bi? At least more bi than say a lesbian who only dates other lesbians right? …kinda?
If someone who is bisexual wants to date or have multiple partners of different genders, what makes them so different than a straight or gay person who is polyamorous?
I have dated a few bisexual women. Each falls on different ends of the spectrum; from very gay to pretty straight with gay tendencies. One of my exs felt she was entitled to still have relationships with men, while dating me. To her, her bisexuality meant that she could play the field even while in a committed relationship. At the time (this was a few years ago) I swore to myself that I would never date another bisexual girl again. But then I came to realize I have a multitude of lesbian friends who feel entitled to the same damn thing. They’ll shamelessly flirt with, or in some cases hook up with other girls then their actual partners. Your sexuality isn’t the factor steering you towards making bad decisions. Your fucking brain is.
For me, now the only problem I encounter when dating someone who I know swings both ways isa fear that I won’t be good enough. That they’ll eventually tire of female bodied individuals and need a man again. As gender fucking fucktabulous as I may be, I don’t have a real dick. I don’t have chest hair (happy for that one thank you very much). I can’t legal marry in practically every fucking state. If we want kids it’s gonna be through some science shit or adoption method…I’m just not a dude. So there’s this feeling in me that’s like: You’re gonna get sick of this whole “being gay” thing find a man to marry and have 2.5 kids and move to Westchester (das it). I get all 8th grade dance scared. I’ll own that. But I no longer wince when a girl tells me she sometimes fucks dudes.
If you are a girl who sometimes, or often times fucks dudes and also like to get down with the ladies leheim to you miss.
People gonna hate. Because, people who do hate ain’t got shit else to do BECAUSE all of the good people they could be hanging out with, actually hate them. Because they: suck.