Has the world lost its mind? Is that what’s happened? I mean clearly it has. We don’t even technically have a government right now. The National Weather Center is naming hurricanes after characters from Mean Girls. And it’s October which means everyone is going bat shit for pumpkin everything. Which like ok I get it, except I don’t because in actual true fact pumpkin lattes are fucking disgusting.
Oh also the internet has again proven that people actually don’t know what the fuck is up. What am I talking about? I am talking about sex and gender and how people can not seem to be able to see women as anything more than sluts, hoe’s, or confused fragile bunny rabbits who obviously can not own their sexuality because their lady uteruses get in the way. And AND somehow can confess to being raped as an 8 year old and the media calls them an asshat.
Who am I talking about? Miley Cyrus and Chris Brown.
As we all know by now Sinead O’Connor ever so nicely came out the self righteous condo for celebrities no one gives a fuck about unless it’s time for a VH1 Most Shocking countdown. To grace us with how she feels about Miley Cyrus. To which. Really Sinead, shut up. Actually all of you shut up. Look I am in no way saying that every little thing Miley does is justified. But she is growing up, and she is doing so (as she has always done) in the public eye. Let us for a second imagine that our formative years were discussed daily all over the internet and on t.v. IMAGINE that someone wrote you a fucking letter online that was seen by millions stating where you are failing and why you need to fix your life. That would be a whole fucking kit and kaboodle of fun for you wouldn’t it?
Now the VMA’s as a whole were a shit show of horrible. So the fact that we’re even still talking about something that was such a piece of crap is beyond me BUT ANYWAY has everyone just up and forgotten Robin Thicke’s grown married man self gyrating INTO Miley? How can we 1. Expect her to make “good” decisions when the adults around her are not. 2. WHY THE FUCK ARE WE EXCUSING HIM? All I could hear in my head while she was dancing with him was “I know you want it.” As in the line from his song Blurred Lines, which since its debut has undergone a shit ton of scrutiny from people who think with their thinking caps about how maybe that song kind of sounds like you know the words a sexual predator may say to a victim. But alas LET THE MUSIC PLAY. And yes it is catchy, yes I will readily admit that, but you sit and listen to those lyrics, maybe after an episode of Law and Order SVU and you tell me – you try and tell me that you don’t feel a little uncomfortable.
A few months ago when Danny Brown got his dick sucked on stage while performing, other men folk tweeted their congrats at him. Because some random person invading your space and getting on your person IS A HIGH FIVE WORTHY MOMENT. Danny’s girlfriend Kitty Pryde took to the internet to question societies usual fuck fuckery. Asking how on Earth people could think that something as traumatizing as being sexually assaulted was worthy of a handshake? If a woman attacks a man it isn’t actually an attack. It’s ok. Because. WHAT? How are we still this fucking moronically confused?
When anyone touches anyone else in a sexual manner with a lack of said person’s consent. It is assault. No matter the fucking gender.
Chris Brown did an interview last week in which he stated that he lost his virginity when he was 8 to a teenage girl. Note to everyone: THAT IS NOT LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY. IT IS BEING RAPED. Brown has clearly chosen to claim the situation as losing his virginity, because well it could be for a multitude of reasons. But no matter what those reasons are. He was raped. But in our society, men don’t get raped. Right? Chris Brown, is not going to admit to the public that he was raped, because he would then not be seen as a Don Juan, he would be a victim, and men can’t be victims. Which is why we are righting letters to Miley Cyrus and calling Chris Brown a fucking asshole for bragging about having sex when he was 8.
I just. I can’t.
We can not empower ourselves, and expect younger generations to empower THEMSELVES if we keep playing by these utterly stupid misogynistic gender roles. A victim does not come in any shape, shade, gender, or size. And neither does a predator or attacker.
It doesn’t make you any less of a person if you are a victim NO MATTER WHAT YOUR GENDER IS. We need to shake ourselves of these gender restrictions.
A woman can be as sexy as she feels. Can wear the shortest skirts. The most see through of tops. And while you can call it bad fashion YOU PROBABLY NEED TO SHUT THE FUCK UP ABOUT CALLING HER A SLUT. It does not open the door for her to be attacked verbally or physically.
No matter how strong you are, how much of a quote on quote MAN someone is, it does not mean that in their past or their right now that they haven’t been assaulted. And if that have it has nothing to do with their masculinity or lack of it. It has to do with the fact that there are shitty people out there who prey on other people. And by you not sympathizing or at least understanding that you are possibly keeping that person in the closet forever. Leaving them alone and without the conversation and the help that they so desperately need.